Reflecting on R U OK? Day
Each year at Shore we pause to reflect on R U OK? Day, which we observed yesterday, Thursday 12 September. The theme this year, “Ask R U OK? Any Day,” serves as an excellent reminder that mental health and wellbeing should be a priority every day, not just once a year.
When I reflect on the meaning of R U OK? Day, I think about how it relates to each of our students across the School. I hope they feel encouraged and supported, knowing that they are part of a School community that is here to support, challenge, and guide them every day. This includes their classroom teachers, Housemasters, School Psychologists, Chaplaincy staff, their friends and peers, and members of the broader Shore Community. Each one of our boys matters to us.
Life is full of ups and downs, and a lot can happen in a short time, a year, a month, or even a week. The people you care about, your friends, family, teammates, are constantly navigating life’s challenges. By having regular, meaningful conversations, we build trust and normalise talking about what’s really going on. This way, when people find themselves struggling, they know they can turn to you for support.
While R U OK? Day provides a specific moment to focus on these conversations, it’s crucial to remember that every day offers an opportunity to ask, “Are you OK?”. A single conversation can change a life, and it’s up to all of us to keep the conversation going beyond just one day.
Our School is built on a foundation of respect for our differences and a commitment to looking out for one another. Our outstanding House system provides a place where all boys can belong. Beyond that, whether they are members of sports teams, participating in various co-curricular activities, or connecting in positive ways within the classroom, we are a community that supports each other to learn, grow, and thrive. Importantly, as a Christian School, we are filled with hope and the belief that each of us matters, and the value of caring for others.
We are very aware that mental health concerns among young people are on the rise, with anxiety, depression, and forms of technology addiction becoming increasingly prevalent. Academic stress, social media, family dynamics, and societal expectations all play a part in these challenges. This makes it even more important to prioritise early intervention, de-stigmatise discussions about mental health, and provide accessible and effective support for our young people. I am deeply encouraged by the boy’s willingness to look out for one another. It is clear to me, in the 20 plus years I have been in secondary education, that real progress has been made.
At Shore, we believe in the power of community to support mental health. Our established Pastoral Care Team, including Housemasters and School Psychologists, work diligently to create an environment where every student is known and belongs. We strive to ensure that all staff members are wellbeing teachers, ready to support our young people in every way possible.
Our parents and caregivers also play a vital role in this initiative. We encourage you to foster open dialogue at home, normalise conversations about emotions, and teach active listening. By continuing the spirit of R U OK? Day throughout the year, we collectively showcase our commitment to the holistic development and wellbeing of our students.
This week in Year meetings, the boys heard more about the significance of R U OK? Day and the importance of checking in with each other regularly. To continue our commitment, staff came together to acknowledge the importance of this day with a morning tea yesterday. I personally addressed the boys in assembly last week about the importance of the day, caring for one another, and belonging to a School community that supports each other.
For more information on how you can support your child and be a part of this conversation, we invite you to read this School TV special report for parents.
Thank you for being a part of this important conversation and for your ongoing commitment to the wellbeing of our community.
Mr Derek Champion
Deputy Head, Pastoral Care