From the College Counsellor

Teens and Technology

I hear time and time again from parents that talk about their daughters, who are addicted to their mobile phones. A child that once loved to hang out with the family, is now spending hours in their room alone and always within reach of their phone. Many parents feel that they are a victim to their teenager’s mood and often struggle to maintain a positive connection with their child that has made it their mission to shut their parents out.

Studies have shown that teenagers over the years are spending less time with their families. In 1996 children between the ages of 10-18 spent 35% of their waking day with their family, that figure has now dropped to only 14% (Gottman.com).

Social media has influenced the way that teenagers interact with each other and build connections. Teens are building their own identities through social media, and losing connection with family around then. In some ways, it is important for parents to keep their teenagers safe whilst they are evolving into adults who need independence and autonomy. The challenge for parents is how do we accomplish that. We need to rise to the challenge and take the time to educate ourselves about how our teens are navigating the digital world in order to foster their independence, empathy and responsibility.

Some helpful strategies for parents to implement when making decisions around teens accessing social media and technology is to set limits.

Try and implement a balance between school, study, sport, family time, socialising and technology. Moderation is key. It may be helpful to have a technology free hour in the household where the family is not using technology and are encouraged to interact and engage together.

Another strategy is to participate with your daughter on technology when possible. Be curious around what they are on and what interests they have so that you can create opportunities to discuss what you are seeing and hearing online.

For more information and guidance around navigating technology with teens the Gottham Institute https://www.gottman.com/

If you wish to discuss the above or have any concerns about your daughter, please feel free to contact the College Counsellor, Monica Rogenmoser via monica.rogenmoser@syd.catholic.edu.au or ph: 0435 659 694