From the Acting Head of Junior School – Focus on Wellbeing

There is a profound concept from ancient Japanese philosophy that holds profound wisdom about personal growth and reminds us to embrace our unique journey, avoiding the pitfalls of comparison: Oubaitori. Oubaitori is derived from the Japanese concept that blossom trees bloom at their own time and way, is uniquely beautiful and they don’t compete with each other. This concept teaches us that we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others because everyone has their own unique path and timing for growth.

The meaning of oubaitori is that, instead of comparing ourselves to other people, we should be focusing on our own growth, and valuing what makes us special. Everyone is different and should be proud of what makes them unique. Mr Sandral always talks to the girls about doing their personal best at School each day.

“Comparison is the thief of joy” is a famous quote from Theodore Roosevelt. Someone who practices oubaitori will be able to find motivation from looking at their own growth and progress, rather than comparing themselves to others to define success.

So how can we all practice oubaitori  in our lives? Here’s some thoughts:

1. Be kind to yourself. We should be looking positively at how we can improve and grow in the future. We should also be celebrating our accomplishments and successes, as that allows us to grow more confident in ourselves.
2. Be grateful for what you have. Putting extra effort into being thankful for what we have is a great habit to have. Not only does it help you realize the good in your life, but it can also help stop you comparing yourself to others. It’s also a great way to notice your own personal growth too.
3. Change the way you use social media. Consuming too much social media can be a quick way to awaken negative feelings and cause you to start making comparing yourself with others. This is too true for our vulnerable young people.
4. Understand that everyone has their own circumstances. It can be easy to compare yourself to others, but you should always keep in mind that everyone’s journey is different. People like to show off their achievements but rarely talk about the work they put in to get there. What might seem to have come easily to somenone is often the result of hard work.
5. Take inspiration from other’s successes. Being able to take inspiration from someone else’s achievements and using it to further develop yourself is a really important part of oubaitori. Rather than letting negative comparisons take over, being able to say “If they managed to achieve that, so can I!” is a great skill to have.

This not only leaves you in a more positive mindset, but also opens the door for personal growth. Whether it’s motivation to continue pursuing your own goals, or inspiration to learn something new, you will surely find yourself achieving more than ever before.

Embracing the philosophical concept of oubaitori, ultimately, allows us to develop a more positive mentality, helps us to be happier and opens the door to growth. 

– Joanne Sharpe
Acting Head of Junior School